What's really going on backstage ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Recognizing an Unhealthy Relationship How do we know when we've crossed the line from a healthy relationship to one that is emotionally dependent? When either party in a relationship: � experiences frequent jealousy, possessiveness, and a desire for exclusivity, viewing other people as a threat to the relationship. � prefers to spend time alone with this friend and becomes frustrated when this does not happen. � becomes irrationally angry and depressed when this friend withdraws slightly. � loses interest in friendships other than this one. � becomes preoccupied by the person's appearance, personality, problems and interests. � is unwilling to make short or long-range plans that do not include the other person. � is unable to see the other's faults realistically. � becomes defensive about this relationship when asked. � displays physical affection beyond what is appropriate for a friendship. � refers frequently to the other in conversation; feels free to "speak for" the other. � exhibits an intimacy and familiarity with this friend that causes others to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed in their presence. Sad to say but my relationship with S definitely included these characteristics which is destructive, as I have already seen in my own life and now I am left to pick up the pieces.
* List taken from the book " Search for Significance by Robert S. McGee (Chapter 6 God's Answer: Reconciliation)" - 2011-10-05 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- |
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